Quitting is for losers.

Losers quit when they are tired. Winners quit when they’ve won.

Winners never quit. Quitters never win.

Over the years, these phrases have been repeated to us over and over again. Quitting something has long been viewed as a sign of weakness, but real winners know the road to success sometimes requires letting go.

Are you really a loser if you quit something that is making you absolutely miserable?

You’re poured money and time into your kids playing youth sports. If they are in tears, with upset stomachs and adamant they don’t want to play, why force them?

If you find yourself avoiding your partner, and every time you are in each other’s presence it erupts into an argument, is that a healthy way to live?

If you dread going to your job every day, if the workload is taking you away from the things that matter, your family and friends, is it worth it to stay?

Too many times we feel obligated to stay in situations that make us unhappy. Yes, there are going to be struggles at times.

I’m not saying quit on life. Quite the opposite.

When you find yourself going months, even years, feeling miserable, it’s time to seek out solutions or help. You don’t have to suffer.

There are many different ways to overcome adversity. Staying in a situation that causes extreme anxiety and stress for too long, that leaves no room for joy, isn’t worth it.

Closing the door on a negative situation or relationship may open up new possibilities and healthier relationships and lead to a less stressful, rewarding life.

Quitting something isn’t a sign of weakness. Setting boundaries and allowing yourself to say no, to walk away from people and situations that cause you unhappiness takes all the strength in the world. 

Letting go what does not serve you, in my book, is winning.

Heather Michonski is a columnist for Gatehouse Media New England. She can be reached at harrisheatherl@gmail.com.