I’m starting the year off on the right foot; I’m in a really good mood because I feel like I helped someone. (I believe the best way to feel good – like, really good – is to make someone else happy. Since it’s January, I’m willing to resolve to do more of this in 2018.)
A young single mom at our church is getting married. She doesn’t have money to spend on a fancy wedding with all the bells and whistles. She’s just content to be marrying the man she loves.
She’s so sweet and she’s just trying to make a good life for herself and her two boys. Each one of us has needed a leg up at one point in our lives – here was my chance to do what I believe church is all about: helping those who need it, and expecting nothing in return.
My friends and I decided we’d create as nice a wedding as we could – you know, with zero budget.
Let me just say, it’s amazing what you can come across for free, when you start asking the right people.
The menu was delegated – someone got the cake, another person brought the drinks, a few people were making special dishes. One woman bought the dress, one took the young man to get fitted for a tux. I admit I took the cutest job: I got to buy outfits for her toddlers.
I mentioned the project to a friend from work. She’s the one who plans all our parties, so she started digging into old bins and boxes in the storage room here at the paper. She found some great stuff – white lights, yards upon yards of white tulle, candles, spray snow (I’m still scratching my head on why we ever needed that at the paper). Best part? We could borrow it all for free.
Of course, I dragged my work friend to church to help decorate – after all, she’s the one who had the vision for a “winter wonderland” theme.
But what would my church friends think about this stranger coming to help?
They loved her, of course. Anyone who’s willing to help someone she has never even met has to be a good person, right?
And she loved my church friends. “It’s refreshing to see a church family rallying around someone like this – I like feeling that I’m doing something concrete to help,” she told me as we drove home.
And that’s just it: In church we are told to help others, that this is what God wants, but how often are you given the opportunity to put those words into action?
I can’t wait to go to this wedding, just to see the look on her face. And rest assured, I realize it’s not the lights or the tulle that’s going to make her happy; rather, it’s the knowledge that her church family came together to do something special for her.
Need a pick-me-up amid the winter doldrums? Find someone to help. Find a way – no matter how small – to do something nice and expect nothing in return. You won’t need anything in return anyway – making someone happy is its own reward.
Of course, we’ve got plenty of fitness, nutrition and other wellness tips to jump start those resolutions.
As always, we thank our sponsor, Saint Anne’s Hospital.